Top Ten Ways to Heal After Heartbreak

I want to get straight to the point. The pronouns him/her can be used interchangeably. Read the following ten steps to heal after heartbreak. If you are having a crisis then re-read this list to help you put your feelings into perspective, fast.
Give yourself 7 days of “the mourning” it’s a time period to basically sulk. Then stop. Afterward, take the following steps to reclaim your heart:
Don’t contact your ex today. Just take it day by day. Don’t contact him by any method, social media, text, a friendly drive by his house, Ironically dropping by his weekly trivia night, Nothing. Stay gone. He will probably think you are after him and be annoyed if he even sees you at all.

Top Ten Ways to Heal After Heartbreak
1. Do delete him from your social media accounts and don’t check up on him by keeping track of his social media pages unanimously. Don’t Tweet about him or post sentimental quotes about love.

2. Don’t do anything out of the ordinary especially not bashing him on social media of any kind.

3.Do forgive yourself for anything that you said or did that was harmful, mean, or embarrassing during the relationship or the breakup. Forgive yourself for accepting treatment you didn’t deserve.

4.Go deeper into your faith-Pray for emotional healing for yourself and your ex. Sometimes you feel that you are the only one that is hurting but there is likely some emotional healing that both parties need. This is your time to understand the power of prayer. Reset your attention on God. Grow your faith so that you will be so strong that no man will be able to leave you devastated again.

5.Do take one day at a time-Take one day at a time. Just to psych yourself out it’s sometimes best to simply not say I will never cry over him again I will never call him. Just say today I will not call him. Today I will force myself to think about him for 15 minutes straight. If you force yourself you won’t want to do it.

6. Do Dial a friend- “after-shocks still miss ya boo” Talk about it with friends, stay in bed. But after those 7 days you are likely to want to keep on talking about him and staying in bed. At this point, it’s important to force yourself out of the house even if it’s only for a few hours. Remember the mantra: don’t cry over someone that is not crying over you. While you are sitting at home, the other person is continuing on with their life. Don’t make them your priority. Live your life to the fullest. Fake it until you really make it!

7.Do create a cons list: so whenever you start to miss him you can remember all the things that u annoyed you about him. It gets easy to start to become nostalgic about the relationship that you had. It’s normal but if you want to get back to the real authentic you, it’s important to do this next step — compile a list of unfavorable traits; memories, and experiences you had while dating your ex that make him incompatible with what you want in your life. You can make it as nice or nasty as you want just let it be real to you. NO one is going to read this (don’t send it to him after a glass of wine on a Friday night) Seriously! This list can include funny things like the way his family seemed a little too friendly with each other to how his pants were a little too short for his body. It can be very superficial to some deep-rooted irreconcilable differences that you ultimately cannot get passed. Recall all the reasons why you don’t want to contact him. Again, It gets really easy to start to become nostalgic about the relationship that you thought you had in a moment of weakness when you want to call him or send that text this list will help you to put things in perspective!

8. Do Start cleaning the house! Clean out the pictures of your ex you have in your place. Sell, give, or throw away any gifts that he may have given to you. Clean clutter to make room for the new person and new energy that you will have when you get the junk out of your trunk!!! You feel so much freer to get rid of anything that is taking up space in your environment, mind, and body. After you’ve removed the clutter begins to Feng Shui your place. Feng shui allows you to revive the energy to bring in new love. Put two roses, two lamps on each side of your bed to symbolize the love of two people.

9. Do Find hobbies: This is the time to find out what you really love and enjoy your life more By finding hobbies you really enjoy you can meet others who have similar interests and you can never lose yourself in a relationship because you have your own interesting life with friends who you can share hobbies with. You may even meet your next partner doing the hobbies you love.

10. Do schedule appointments. One with your OBGYN (get all the tests you need to get if you were sexually active with your ex. Being intimate with someone is a huge reason why it’s so hard to forget your ex (oxytocin a chemical produced between humans to bond is the culprit) and make another appointment with a therapist — Before you buy a new dress or handbag think twice. There are a lot of ways you can see a therapist on any budget. Therapy can cost less than a trip to the mall but its value will last a lifetime. Do you need to learn how to set boundaries? Were you losing yourself in the relationship and now that it’s over you don’t have anything or anyone else to call? Did you think your ex was perfect for you although all your friends and family disliked your ex? Those are questions you have to address before heading into something new!

Love will come again and this time you will be more prepared to receive real love and lasting love. Always make yourself a priority before you love anyone else that way you will receive the best love!

If you would like more tips on healing after heartbreak I recommend my book it’s easy to read and will help you heal and date with confidence and grace:

Last To Let Go, A Guide To Healing Heartbreak :

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BSJD9YSV